You Shouldn't Date Outside Your Race

 My biggest problem with Dr. Laura Schlessinger's comments to that caller who was in an interracial relationship was not that she used the word Nigger/Nigga one too many times, but was the fact that she tried to give botched advice to a woman who was genuinely concerned for her relationships with her husband, his friends, and his family.

For one, Dr. Schlessinger is not a minority, she is a middle-aged white woman with advanced education and a nationally recognized syndicated radio talk show. Why she felt that she could legitimately tell a woman who felt uncomfortable in situations that she was too sensitive is beyond me. I do believe that some of us in the black community are quick to throw the race card when we feel violated, threatened, or disrespected, but clearly this woman wanted to find a way to rectify the situation.

Everyone has different experiences in their lives and react uniquely to situations and circumstances. It so happened that this black woman fell in love with that white man and his family and friends (unknowingly or knowingly) make comments in which she's out of her comfort zone. Yes, growth occurs outside our normal comfort zones, and yes, this woman should have known that she would face difficulties in her relationship with this man, but does that give Dr. S the right to tell her that she shouldn't date outside her race? I think not.

Moral of the story? Black people STOP calling each other Nigger/Nigga if you don't want those outside of the black community to use it. Instead let's use "sister," "brother," "my woman," "my man," etc as terms of endearment. And if you're not strong enough to withstand the backlash that is associated with any group, ideal, or value that may not be deemed "acceptable" in the United States, think twice before entering into such a commitment.

Here's the transcript to her entire rant: http://emptysuit.wordpress.com/2010/08/13/dr-laura-schlesingers-nigger-rant-transcript/